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Avengers: Age of Ultron

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white people talking about other ethnicities be like
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white people talking about themselves be like
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Something that happens to me sometimes with guys* is they do something I find hurtful, I calmly tell them so, they apologize, I thank them and accept, and then…they keep apologizing. And apologizing. And talking about how they feel like “such a jerk now” and how they really are a nice person who doesn’t usually do things like this and they’re really so sorry and I keep saying that it’s fine, they apologized already and I accepted and it’s okay as long as it doesn’t happen again and…they just. keep. apologizing.

And then it occurs to me that, even if they don’t realize it, they’re asking for something from me. They want reassurance. Fucking up feels bad, and I’m the one with the supposed power to make them feel like good people again. So the endless apologizing is meant to extract those sorts of caring behaviors from me–”No, really, I really like you as a person, I know you didn’t mean it”–and perhaps, eventually, capitulation–”It’s okay, really, it wasn’t even that big a deal, I probably shouldn’t have even said anything about it.”

As I said, this is probably unintentional/subconscious; people who do this probably think that they’re just making sure the other person really has forgiven them. But since it’s based around a temporary loss of self-esteem, the only thing that can end the cycle of apologizing is to be convinced that they really are a good person–perhaps because the thing they did wrong wasn’t even that bad of a thing to do.

And there’s plausible deniability there, too. But they feel so bad! But they’re just showing you how much they care that they messed up! But…maybe it was juuust a little bit kinda really mean of you to make them feel so bad! And on it goes. It feels wrong to ask that someone stop apologizing, even if it’s making you feel bad. I think we’re meant to take over-apologizing as a sign of extra concern, or perhaps as a compliment. But, as with surprisingly many social interactions, over-apologizing may be more about the apologizer’s needs and wants rather than those of the person being apologized to. Overapologizing and the Myth of Closure (via brutereason)

What’s up with “shall” and “will”?

theyuniversity:

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The traditional rule in standard British English is that shall is used with first-person pronouns (“I” and “we”) to form the future tense, while will is used with second and third person forms (youhesheitthey):

  • I shall call you later tonight.
  • We shall be waiting; please don’t be late.
  • They will not be in stock if you wait too long.
But when it comes to expressing a strong determination to do something, it’s the other way around: will is used with the first person, and shall with the second and third:
  • I will not eat green eggs and ham!
  • You shall eat it, Sam-I-Am!
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In American English, “shall" is virtually interchangeable with "will,” except in asking questions (see below).

Therefore, all of the following sentences are correct:

  • She called to say that she will be late.
  • shall play the role of Hamlet.
  • Melanie will bring doughnuts for the entire class.
  • Soon, they will heed Gandalf’s warning.

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However, “shall" and "will" are NOT interchangeable when it comes to questions.

We use “will” in the following types of questions:

  • Will the test be difficult?
  • Will you marry me?
  • Will you be sad when we’re gone?

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We use “shall" in questions that involve "I" and "we":

  • Shall I bring you a cup of tea?
  • Where shall we go next weekend?
  • Shall we dance?

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sociopaths-have-the-box:

ladymarvels:

Technically Thor wasn’t even part of the avengers initiative. He just showed up to the party.

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coveredinsnow-:

ilovemaydayparade69:

rubee:

"why dont you just give him a chance"

idk because im not physically or mentally attracted to him and ‘but he likes you’ or ‘but hes really nice’ isnt going to change the fact that im not interested

Damn, I don’t think women know how much that really hurts

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wsswatson:

"where’s the straight pride parade?!"

go outside

there you go

you found it

ccushty:

punkgender:

one of the worst things about becoming educated on social issues is when people are like ‘you used to have a sense of humor’

no i used to have internalized prejudices which i’ve worked really hard to overcome and i realize now that your jokes are shitty

Always reblog this because becoming more socially aware makes you dislike a lot of people
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